Birthday toasts and speeches

Drawing of birthday celebration with men at table

Is someone you love turning another year older?  Then it's time to party and offer birthday toasts and speeches to celebrate another successful year.

This page is especially designed for grown-up birthdays.  If you're looking for children's birthdays, may I suggest you check out the website Coolest Kids Birthday Parties.

General guidelines for birthday toasts and speeches: consider the age group

Whether you are doing a toast or speech at a special birthday celebration or you want to send a card with a personal note that honors the occasion, you can find tips in this section that are light-hearted, humorous and thoughtful.

As is the case with all speeches, you'll want to plan your remarks so that you engage your audience, make the person you are honoring happy, and avoid rambling or speaking too long.  At SpecialSpeeches, I recommend writing out your remarks. And most of all, practice them out loud. That way you'll notice any difficult phrases that can leave you choking on your words.

What you might say depends on the age of the birthday person.

Special occasions -- such as an 80th or 90th birthday -- call for celebrations of wisdom and maturity. You'll want to express thoughts that are classic, in good taste and heartfelt.

You have more latitude for jokes and puns about aging with those who are celebrating their middle ages. Have some fun with our collection of sayings that celebrate those glorious middle ages with a sense of humor.

After a person turns 30 or older, aging jokes are commonplace and can be really funny so long as none of your guests are elderly. Subjects such as challenges with getting started in a job, relationships with others or the life learning curve are all  topics you can explore. Young adults offer a buffet of choices for topics for your toast or speech.

For people entering middle age, growing older with its challenges and limits can be funny. That's the time people are beginning to accept that they are seriously adults. And for many, the hint of aches and pains to come are just beginning to surface.  Just be aware of your audience and the person you are speaking about.  The last thing you want to do is hurt someone's feelings. . .  so be funny but kind. 

General guidelines for birthday toasts and speeches: gifts

For specific wording for birthday toasts and speeches, there are a number of pages in this section that are tailored to certain age groups. Check those out. 

But if you're looking also for a gift, consider these traditions. You can't go wrong with flowers or jewelry for women. For men, the favorite option is often a gift certificate. That may seem bland but is perfect if you don't know the man well enough to get an ideal gift. Is he a bookish type? A certificate to add to his collection lets him choose what he's missing or been eyeing.  A sports fan can always use a team hat or t-shirt.

Grandparents sharing a hugImage by lisabussell from Pixabay

For seniors celebrating a birthday, think about something that will bring back special memories. Most seniors have all the stuff they need and are probably in the process of decluttering and giving items away. So a tchotchke   or some other item that takes up space may not be as welcome as a framed print of an old photo, perhaps letters that you have from earlier years or some personal item like a bag that includes a personal message or photo.  Doesn't take up much space and is useful.

Back to the women with special birthdays . . . Birthday months are associated with traditional flowers or gemstones. As you develop your toast, you might refer to the birthday chart below for inspiration.

Gems, flowers and signs for birthday months

Month

   January

Gemstone

Garnet

Flower

Carnation

Zodiac Sign* (See note) 

Capricorn
Jan. 20-Feb. 16

February

Amethyst

Violet

Aquarius
Feb. 16-March 11

   March

Aquamarine

Daffodil

Pisces
March 11-April 18

   April

Diamond

Daisy

Aries
April 18-May 13

   May

Emerald

Lilly of the Valley

Taurus
May 13-June 21

   June

Pearl

Rose

Gemini
June 21-July 20

   July

Ruby

Water Lily

Cancer
July 20-August 10

   August

Peridot

Poppy

Leo
August 10-Sept. 16

   September

Sapphire

Aster

Virgo
Sept 16-Oct 30

   October

Opal

Cosmos

Libra
Oct 30-Nov. 23

   November

Topaz

Chrysanthemum

Scorpio
Nov 23-Nov 29

Ophiuchus
Nov 29-Dec 17

December

Turquoise

Holly

Sagittarius
Dec 17-Jan 20

*NOTE:  In January 2016, NASA announced that it was recognizing 13 constellations. Those are the basis of astrological signs although NASA disavows any connection with astrology.

How about a birthday song?

If you have a musical bent and want to sing to celebrate a special birthday, how about this classic song from Carly Simon which is especially appropriate for middle age or senior birthdays.