Here are some toast tips to keep in mind when it's your turn to
make a toast:
Be yourself -- If
you were Jay Leno, you'd make big money with your speeches. Even if you
don't have the charisma of a
TV superstar and don't know how to toast, you can still be charming and
have an impact. Special
are events of the heart and call for remarks that tell how you feel
person being honored.
Practice your toast.
This toast tip is the best safeguard
against rambling – the unforgiveable sin of
Write out your toast. After you are familiar with it, rehearse in
front of someone to get their feedback. Never assume that you can be
spontaneous and the right words will come. People who don't follow this
toast tip too often make fools
out of themselves.
your audience. Save the risqué remarks for the
young, hip crowd. In gatherings that include children or senior
clean. Taste is relative so if you're in doubt about whether certain
stories are appropriate, trust your gut. Leave the raunchy comments
Humor is good but don’t force
yourself to be a comedian. The best toasts feel
natural. Humor is a matter of timing, build-up and surprise
most of us, is not spontaneous. So practice. A funny master of
unforgettable. When you make a toast with humor that misses
the mark, you'll be embarrassed.
Use personal stories.
Toasts are the perfect opportunity to tell a story that reveals
something about the person being honored. You have a unique
experiences you have shared with this special individual. Recall one or
moments that highlight your relationship or the honoree's character in
that ties to the special occasion.
|Plan ahead. There is
nothing worse than a rambling speaker.
While you don’t have to recite from memory, you must pay attention to
Depending on the event and the number of toasters, your remarks may be
as 30 seconds or up to a few minutes. The fewer the
the more time you can use with your own toast or speech.
Tributes can last longer.
If you are at an event honoring
someone, your remarks may last up to five minutes. One important toast
tip -- find out ahead of
many others will be involved in giving testimonials and follow the rule
the more speakers, the shorter the remarks.
Study the seating chart.
Know where friends and family are
seated so you can make eye contact with them and get some moral
will boost your confidence when you make a toast.
Don’t drink more
than a few sips of wine during the toasting. This is a really important
toast tip. Drinking may make
you feel more relaxed but it can also impair your ability to speak
your judgment about appropriate behavior.
Keep your tone chatty,
funny and/or emotional and your timing short.
Be sure everyone has something to
with. At a cocktail party, ask the waiters to come around
glasses when you are ready for the toasting to begin. At a seated
dinner, you may want to have Champagne waiting at the tables if you
want to begin the evening with toasts. If the toasting will
place later in the meal, let the waiters know when it is time to serve
or pour the champagne.
appropriate to make toast
with a beverage besides champagne
including non-alcoholic drinks. In fact, you should always
non-alcoholic alternative available for those who choose not
It's time to toast.
Now that you know how to toast, get everyone’s attention
by tapping on the
glass with your
dinner knife. If that doesn't work, stand up and announce that
toasting is about to begin, asking for everybody’s
attention…repeatedly if you
have to. You don't have to have complete silence to make a toast but
patiently for the noise level to drop.
of the bride toasts
with champagne (and other beverages)