The tradition of wedding toasts
are the traditional way to honor the bride and groom.
They can be as elaborate or as simple as the ceremony
itself and have become as much a part of the event as
the bouquet toss or the cake topped with a bride and
The two occasions when people usually make toasts are
at the rehearsal dinner and at the wedding reception.
People offering toasts at the reception will be family
and friends of the bride and groom. At the rehearsal
dinner toasts are usually limited to family members
and those in the wedding party.
When you are planning the wedding reception,
you should also plan the toasts. Shorter toasts are
better at the reception, especially if it includes
dinner and dancing that will continue into the
evening. People have a limited attention span so
most toasts should be less than a minute except for
the wedding speeches by prominent members of the
The rehearsal dinner is usually less formal and has a
smaller guest list which gives more latitude for
people who want to make a special speech or toast for
the soon-to-be-married couple. You may also want to
consider using a wedding poem.
Although anyone who has a
close relationship with one or both of the newlyweds
may want to make a speech, it is a tradition for
certain individuals to offer remarks. Those people
toasting order may vary
according to tradition or preference.
father of the bride
father of the groom
maid of honor or matron of honor
mother of the bride
mother of the groom
The bride and groom should also prepare to say
something to each other and to those who have gathered
for the occasion.
offering a toast
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