Here are some toast tips to keep in mind when it's
your turn to
make a toast:
yourself -- If you were Jay Leno, you'd make big
money with your speeches. Even if you don't have the
charisma of a TV superstar and don't know how to toast,
you can still be charming and have an impact. Special
occasions are events of the heart and call for remarks
that tell how you feel about the person being honored.
your toast. This
toast tip is the best safeguard against rambling
the unforgivable sin of toasting.
Write out your toast. After you are familiar with it,
rehearse in front of someone to get their feedback. Never
assume that you can be spontaneous and the right words
will come. People who don't follow this toast tip too
often make fools out of themselves.
audience. Save the risqué remarks for the young,
hip crowd. In gatherings that include children or senior
citizens, keep it clean. Taste is relative so if you're in
doubt about whether certain remarks or stories are
appropriate, trust your gut. Leave the raunchy comments
for another time.
is good but dont force yourself to be a
comedian. The best toasts feel natural. Humor is a
matter of timing, build-up and surprise and, for most of
us, is not spontaneous. So practice. A funny master of
ceremonies is unforgettable. When you make a toast with
humor that misses the mark, you'll be
personal stories. Toasts are the perfect
opportunity to tell a story that reveals something
about the person being honored. You have a unique
perspective because of experiences you have shared with
this special individual. Recall one or two moments that
highlight your relationship or the honoree's character in
a way that ties to the special occasion.
There is nothing worse than a rambling speaker.
While you dont have to recite from memory, you must
pay attention to the time. Depending on the event
and the number of toasters, your remarks may be as
short as 30 seconds or up to a few minutes. The
fewer the people making toasts, the more time
you can use with your own toast or speech.
can last longer. If you are at an event honoring
someone, your remarks may last up to five minutes. One
important toast tip -- find out ahead of time how many
others will be involved in giving testimonials and follow
the rule that the more speakers, the shorter the remarks.
the seating chart. Know where friends and family
are seated so you can make eye contact with them and get
some moral support. They will boost your confidence when
you make a toast.
drink more than a few sips of wine during the
toasting. This is a really important toast tip. Drinking
may make you feel more relaxed but it can also impair your
ability to speak clearly and your judgment about
your tone chatty, funny and/or emotional and
your timing short.
sure everyone has something to toast with. At a
cocktail party, ask the waiters to come around and refill
glasses when you are ready for the toasting to begin. At a
seated dinner, you may want to have Champagne waiting at
the tables if you want to begin the evening with toasts.
If the toasting will take place later in the meal,
let the waiters know when it is time to serve or pour the
Its perfectly appropriate to
a beverage besides champagne including non-alcoholic
drinks. In fact, you should always have a
non-alcoholic alternative available for those who
choose not to drink.
time to toast. Now that you know how to toast,
get everyones attention by tapping on the glass with
your dinner knife. If that doesn't work, stand up and
announce that the toasting is about to begin, asking
for everybodys attention
repeatedly if you have to.
You don't have to have complete silence to make a toast
but wait patiently for the noise level to drop.
Father of the bride